4 November 2010
Conversations with your child
I discovered the other day, far far too late (two children deep, to be clear), that the best way to have a decent conversation with your child when seconded for a session of figurine play (“you be polar bear and I’ll be dog”) is to ask lots of open questions and let your child do much of the talking. Not only was it easier on me, but it was actually really fun. Lucy’s dog was holding a bone so I asked after it.
Polar bear: “I see you have a bone”
Polar bear: “Where’d you get it”
Dog: “From a bone shop”
Polar bear: “What was the bone shop called?”
Dog: “It was a bone shop”
Polar bear: “Did the bone shop have a name?”
Big pause, much consideration, eyes looking skyward…
Dog: “You Can Buy A Bone”
Brilliant. To anyone needing a bone, clearly this is the shop for you, for ‘you can buy a bone’.
At our weekly catchup last week, a friend told me about her child’s pre-school art auction. Every child had to draw a picture and it would presented at the show. I’m really not sure how this happened, how no-one saw or screened what was to be shown, but J’s picture was held up to the audience and there in all his glory was a doodle of her father - naked - in pretty good detail.
Another friend has noticed her daughter is quite observant, which means sometimes saying inappropriate things, however she did say something quite appropriately funny the other day (out of earshot of her target). A rather large man walked past, which prompted ‘M’ to say to her mother all serious-like, ‘that man has had too much sometimes food’.
I find now that Lucy is four we are able to have very detailed and thoughtful conversations. We can go out for a coffee and fluffy (babycino, fluffy milk) and have the most interesting talks. I can’t really imagine what our conversations will be like when she’s a teen. Probably non-existent.